FREE INTRO TO CHOOSING ALIGNED PARTNERS – Choosing Creative Over Co-Dependent Partners
Creating Quality Relationships Easily
Why is it that we associate relationship compatibility with opposing attractions rather than creative alignment and responsiveness? Why do we choose partners who only fulfill our personal needs, but do not value us as creative contributors? Becoming conscious allows us to see that there is a difference between our personality and creative nature. If we focused on who is compatible, we would have many enriching relationships. We would then easily outgrow those we have chosen based on incomplete parental patterns, romantic attachments, and the promise of rebellion against past desires or types.
The real opportunity is to choose partners who are autonomous and seek to contribute to manifest a larger mutual vision. Compatibility helps guide us to partners that could best contribute together, Consciousness expands when we embrace change, clarify growth, and strive to be more than our past. Would you rather have an egoic, or epic partnership? The first egoic type, based on our personality, is self-absorbed and does not know how to creatively interact with others. We end up negotiating our needs rather than adding value.
Epic conscious relationships are a transpersonal discovery process that we consciously affirm and confirm in each moment. In creative relationships, it is not so much what we say, but who we are saying it. It is an energetic engagement process involving the conscious attractions of Autonomous Aliveness, Intimate Vulnerability, and Creative Responsiveness. Conscious attractions, when affirmed, align us in mutual goals. This requires sensitivity and depth of context. In a conscious relationship, we generate a creative bonding experience that can stand the test of time. The more we can re-create our partners in a conscious Common Neutral Ground, the more truly supportive and supported we become.
While many talk about their partners as their better halves, this thinking is reactionary, polarized, and co-dependent. We destroy our true natures when we affirm the isolation, separation, and insulation in our relationships. Isolation breeds materialism and defensiveness. Separation creates competition and false judgments; Insulation amplifies self-importance, hubris, and false projections. These 3 personality elements are the cause of our fear and personality desire to escape into a relationship that will take care of us.
Our frustration and resentment grow the more we feel compelled to do what our partner tells us. The results are guilt, shame, and blame. These are the results of choosing defensive partners that reinforce our egoic structures. The cost is constricted, needy interactions that diminish our respect, esteem, and love. In egoic relationships, we need to prove ourselves by being what our partner needs. We shift this when we stop comparing ourselves to what we think we deserve and start creatively manifesting who we are.
There are answers that can end confusion about who makes an appropriate partner. Higher Alignment believes that creativity itself is the highest expression of Love. Therefore, we maximize quality relationships by choosing people who resonate with us. To this end, HA has developed fifteen Compatibility Factors, of which six are critical in having harmonic, effortless relationships.
To choose better partners there are six main factors, in order of importance: 1) Choosing the same Primary Creative Expression; 2) the same Defense style; 3) a similar WorldView; 3) the same Communication Process, 4) a similar Decision-Making Approach; and 6) similar Pacing. What is astonishing to those new to this program is how people who learn to identify these patterns in others, can do it just by looking at pictures. Come to this free intro night to experience this through our identification of your three creative intelligences. We look forward to explaining why similar partners do best with each other.
Choosing Aligned Partners - Reflecting On What Has Worked And Not is a 6-week Zoom series on Thursdays at 6:00 p.m. MST, from June 29 through August 3, 2023.
Join us on Zoom on Thursday, June 22, 2023 from 6- 8 pm for our second FREE INTRO to Choosing Aligned Partners. Our Free Intro topic is “Choosing Creative Over Co-Dependent Partners”.